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  • Why M/M Fascinates Us

    Have you been curious why \”male/male\” or M/M romance is such a fascinating read?  Join me today at Samhain Publishing for the discussion.

  • The Secret to Enthusiasm

    Okay. Let\’s be blunt. Enthusiasm isn\’t always lauded. In fact, many times folks want to put it down, as thought an adult being enthusiastic is indecent, or that the enthusiastic person will use up all the available energy and there won\’t be any left for others.

    Here, then, is the secret to enthusiasm, so that it will spread like a virus and then we\’ll all have it.

    What makes you passionate?

    What gets you ranting?

    When you have the time, what do you like to do? Not the socially-acceptable answer, but the real truth?

    What common themes occur in the answer to the previous question?

    The more that you understand these things, the more enthusiastic you become about them.  Don\’t be afraid to follow your passion.  No matter what people say, being enthusiastic is the secret to happiness.

  • Unusual Travelogue

    Curious about salt caves? Come with me today where I\’m blogging at Delilah Devlin\’s blog about the Galos Salt Caves.
  • Erotica Readers and Writers Association

    I figured I\’d share a link today, because a little later on I have news!  So stay tuned.

    In the meantime, check out the Erotica Readers and Writers Association!  Pretty cool, no?  I like how classy their front page is, as well as the subject.  There\’s a time and place for more gritty sexy stuff, but I also appreciate artful erotica.

  • Tue Cent Twosday – The Pen vs. the Keyboard

    In my writing group, I often hear complaints when I suggest we try a written exercise as opposed to one with a laptop or other computer device. I have said it before and I’ll likely say it again: writing by hand is important and valuable to anyone working with their own creativity, be they writers or other artists. In fact, I would argue that writing by hand is useful for everyone, and not just creatives. That does not mean that writing with a keyboard isn’t valuable in its own way too, but that one shouldn’t avoid handwriting altogether.

    Here are the five most common complaints and suggestions on how to address them:

    “I never write by hand.”

    I’m surprised by how many people say this to me. What’s even more surprising is how many of them aren’t Gen Y folks. The stereotype is that Gen Y folks only type, and that Gen X and Boomers are more “old school.” I haven’t seen this stereotype borne out.

    My response to it is simple: give it a try. Even if you only use it for writing exercises, think of them like you do the gym or music drills. The more you do it, the easier it gets.

    “I write too slow, and forget all the things I want to say.”

    This isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Our minds become fragmented by technology. I watch people try to have a conversation during writing group, or even just write. Smart phones buzz and people immediately look at them, even mid-sentence, to see what they say. Like coffee-fueled five-year-olds, we have lost the ability to carry one thought in our minds for longer than a few moments before we are distracted, like the dog in the movie “Up.” This isn’t healthy, nor is it good for our intelligence.

    Writing by hand slows us down so that we can catch up with ourselves. Typing on a computer means that we are staring at a clock, are prone to distraction from Facebook, email, and other programs, and that we can go at the speed of hyper instead of the speed of the hand. There is a reality within us that we can only hear when we slow down enough to listen.

    “My hand cramps.”

    This is a reasonable complaint. Like any other physical activity, stretch often and build up your strength. Maybe only write for fifteen minutes the first time, then work your way up to a longer session.

    “I can’t read my own writing, so why bother?”

    It’s like when we were taught to write way back when we were kids. Just practice. You’ll get better with time and attention.

    “It’s more efficient to type.”

    The objective isn’t to be efficient, it’s to see what we have to say. Efficiency is not the most important goal for a writer; clarity is.

    Give it a try. You might be surprised what you learn.

    Next time:  \”In Defense of the Pen\”

  • Monday Blues

    It\’s the first Monday in August.  Five months left in the year.  Here are some questions to get you thinking:

    1.  What did you miss doing this summer?  List all the things you can think of.

    2.  What do you want to make sure you fit in this holiday season?  Again, list all the things you can think of.

    3.  What do you want to be able to say, in January, that you did during 2012?

    Write a paragraph or more for each of these.  Then move on to the next step.

    1.  Take your list and pick one summer thing, and schedule it for this week.  Then tuck the rest of your list and tuck it in the back of your calendar to put in next year\’s day planner.  Or, if you use an electronic calendar, then put the list on May 1, 2013, and call it \”For Planning This Summer.\”

    2.  Take your list and pick 5 things you can afford.  Now, schedule each of these things somewhere between November 1 and December 31.  Put the rest of the list at the end of your calendar or make a calendar entry for August 1, 2013.

    3.  Take your list of things you want to do this year and write three pages in your journal.  Ask yourself which of the things you\’ve listed you most want to accomplish and what is standing in your way of doing so.

    4.  Now, schedule time in the next week to get started.  Even 30 minutes spent pursuing your goal means you\’ll be that much closer to accomplishing it.

    5.  Schedule another 30 minutes for next week.

    6.  Now, go do it.

    And above all, Happy Monday!

  • Sunday Box Talk – The Journal As Tool

    One of the best ways to get better at understanding our own boxes and their effect on us is through journaling.  I don\’t mean the stereotypical daily page-by-page, blow-by-blow accounts, but more like letters to ourselves.  In fact, writing a dialog with ourselves is tremendously useful.

    How does it work?

    As we write, sometimes we have other responses in our heads to thoughts we write down.  For example, we might write, \”I want to go to France.\”  A response might be, \”Yeah, right, like I have money for that.\”  Another response might be, \”Well, I could set up a savings account for it.\”  And then, \”Well, I\’d better set up an appointment at the bank to talk about options for savings.\”  If we label that first thought A, and then label each response, we can begin to follow a conversation:

    A:  I want to go to France.

    B:  Yeah, right, like I have money for that.\”

    A:  Well, I could set up a savings account for it.\”

    C:  I\’d better set up an appointment at the bank.

    \”C\” is the advisor that helps us get in touch with our deeper wisdom.  It might be D or E.  But if we dig deeply enough, we can find the inner strength to navigate many tough problems.

    What do you think about journaling?  Do you use one?

  • The Noonhour – A Children\’s Folktale

    Welcome to The Noonhour, a Podcast featuring essays, children\’s stories, and other items I find interesting.  It\’s an experiment that I\’m enjoying, so sit back, relax, and listen to
    The Noonhour



  • The Noonhour – A Children\’s Folktale

    Welcome to The Noonhour, a Podcast featuring essays, children\’s stories, and other items I find interesting.  It\’s an experiment that I\’m enjoying, so sit back, relax, and listen to
    The Noonhour



  • TGIF!

    We survived to Friday!  What a relief, eh? I\’m ready for the weekend.  So ready, in fact, I forgot I wanted to do a post today.  So, instead of babbling about nothing, YOU tell ME – what are your weekend plans?

  • BLARG! THURSDAY!

    How did it get to be Thursday, AUGUST 2nd??

  • Announcing… A Noonorial!

    I\’m having so much fun with learning to use different multi-media presentation tools that I came up with a tutorial that I\’m calling a Noonorial.  (Don\’t laugh, this stuff is infectious and fun.  I mean, imagine what you could share with others, what cool screen tips you could share, just by playing around?  Don\’t believe me?  Check it out:  Screenr.)

    Today is Writer Wednesday and I\’m at the Writer\’s Retreat Blog with the debut episode of the Noonorial – How to Get a Permalink in Blogger.  Stop on by!