Tag: Rachel Wilder

  • Walking In This World – The Flora and Fauna Report

    Walking In This World – The Flora and Fauna Report

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    It’s easy to think that our neighborhood is ordinary. After all, we live there and see it every day. We forget that what is ordinary for us, may be exotic for others.

    I’ll give you an example. I have a friend who lives in Melbourne, Australia, about as far from me, here in Chicago, Illinois, USA, as it’s possible to get. I was telling her about riding the CTA, which stands for “Chicago Transit Authority” and generally refers to the elevated light-rail commuter trains, though it can also mean buses. She told me about a “roo,” or kangaroo, in her front yard. They couldn’t leave the house until the police came to remove the animal, since she had a baby with her and would become violent if approached.

    Now I don’t know about you, but a kangaroo in my front yard would be quite something, must less a mamma with a baby. And the idea that this “cute” animal might hurt me is alien in the extreme – though, if you think about it, those feet and powerful legs probably do pack a wallop.

    When I got to thinking about it some more, the world I live in here in Chicago is very different from where I went to high school. I lived on a seven acre horse ranch in the middle of the Sierra Nevada Mountains. Our ranch backed up to a larger cattle rancher’s place, and behind that, it was all Plumas Sierra National Forest. For miles. And miles. When it was dark there, you could see the stars. In Chicago, it doesn’t get dark. It’s an amber glow from the street lights – in fact, you can tell the boundary between Chicago and neighboring suburbs by the color of the streetlights.

    What about you, Dear Reader? What’s unique about where you live, but that just seems ordinary?

  • Tuesday Tips – Cat Litter Containers

    Tuesday Tips – Cat Litter Containers

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    I have a lot of yarn.

    No, really.

    The problem is, that all that yarn piled into a mountain in the middle of my living room would be a lot of fun, for about five minutes.

    Then, The Cats.

    So, what to do with it until I\’m ready to turn it into something?

    Cat litter containers!  I might as well get SOME use out of all the shitsand we use at our house.  ~grin~

    Many of the litter companies sell litter in large plastic three or five gallon-size containers with locking lids.  Once you\’ve used the litter, wash them out and store your yarn.  They also have the advantage of stacking well, which is useful if you have an unused corner behind a door, say.

    What about you, Dear Reader?  What are your favorite supply storage tips?

  • Tue Cent Twosday – The Toolbox

    Tue Cent Twosday – The Toolbox

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    \”Success doesn\’t come to you, you go to it.\”

    – Marva Collins

    It’s easy to lament the things we don’t have yet. The media bombards us with images of more successful, more slender, more athletic, more successful people every day. New media come online every day, methods of distracting us from ourselves: even the dollar store as the “dollar store radio network” to talk to you while you hunt for bargains. Is it any wonder we feel bombarded? Or, worse, bad about ourselves because we’re not where we want to be?

    I offer a thought for a beleaguered mind: gratitude.

    Give thanks for the good that exists in your life, right now. Even if there doesn’t seem like much you could possibly be grateful for, the fact that you are alive and reading this newsletter is enough. Imagine if you were in Baghdad right now, sitting in the bombed-out shell of your temple, trying to pray with the sounds of mortars booming in the distance? What if one hits your neighborhood? The fact that we live in relative peace and calm, pursuing making a living and our hobbies, is a subject we can offer much gratitude for. Sure, not everything is perfect. But much of it is good.

    Try numbering a sheet from one to ten, and write down ten things you’re grateful for. See if you can’t go past ten. How do you feel?

    Now I propose that we become pilgrims on the path to self. We will do this together, side by side, shoulder to shoulder. Our tools are our bright minds and our love for each other. The first item in our toolbox is Gratitude. Learn to say thank you with an open heart. If you need ideas for how, go grab a copy of Sarah Ban Breathnach’s Simple Abundance, one of the best books written in the last two decades. Try her Gratitude Journal. Select a small, pretty book. Each night, just before you go to sleep, write down five things you are grateful for from the day. That’s all. Just five.

    Originally posted on my Noonsense blog, 06/22/2010.

  • Join Me Over At The Romance Studio For Some Oscars Fun and Prizes!

    Join Me Over At The Romance Studio For Some Oscars Fun and Prizes!

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    Join me today over at The Romance Studio for some great prizes, discussion about the Oscars, and to select your favorite authors of 2015!

    First, there is our Movie Vote where you can pick who think you will win the big movie awards. One winner will be selected at random from among those who get all six categories correct to receive a $50 Amazon eGift Card.

    Then, there is our Best Of 2015 Vote. What were your favorite romances and authors of 2015? We want to know. The results will be announced at the party. Advertising/membership prizes will be given to the winners.

    I\’ll be blogging throughout the day, chatting about my favorite movies and actors.

    1. It\’s Oscar Day – Who Will Win, Matt or Leo?
    2. Let\’s Hear It For the Girls!
    3. And the Winner Goes To…
    4. The Right Stuff
    5. Best of… and Thank You!
  • Wandering Around the Web – Two for Thursday

    Wandering Around the Web – Two for Thursday

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    Join me at the Torquere Press LiveJournal for a Field Trip to the Field Museum!

    It\’s one of my favorite museums, and it\’s open free during February to Illinois residents!  Some writer buds and I went last weekend and I have the pictures to prove it! 🙂  Join me!

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    Join me on LinkedIn for a discussion about Triberr and some ways to use it.

    Triberr is an effective tool to boost your reach and I chat about some of the ways I\’ve been using it.  Join me!

  • Walking In This World – Snow

    Walking In This World – Snow

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    The snow has started.  They\’re predicting gusts up to 50 mph and 4 to 10 inches of snow, but most of what will be to the south of us if the weather reports are to be trusted.   It\’s started to snow now, which you can\’t really tell in the foreground but that hazy bit down the alley shows it better.  The alley isn\’t usually this strewn with trash, but the wind has been hellish the last few days and blows all sorts of crap everywhere.  It\’s got to drive property owners nuts, because no sooner do you clean it, than it\’s littered again.  Grr.

    Weather is strange.  It\’s one of those things we can\’t change, but we like to bitch about it just the same.  \”It\’s snowing!\”  It\’s February.  In Chicago.  \”It\’s cold today!\”  It\’s Winter.  In Chicago.  I\’d be more worried if those two things weren\’t happening at this time of year in this town.  No, this isn\’t a rant about global warming, though that is a rant that needs to be had and a problem that faces all of us who live on planet Earth, but my point about the weather is that it is out of our control.  If ever there was an answer to \”Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,\” weather\’s it.

    So I take pictures of it.  I like weather, by and large, because it reminds me I\’m a physical body, not just keyboard operating fingers attached to a brain, and I have to wear clothes and make sure that I\’m fed and have emergency supplies if we get snowed in.  (And, while I\’m on that subject, how come I never get snowed in?  I want a snow day, damn it!)

    What about you, Dear Reader?  What are your favorite weather coping strategies?

  • Sunday Box Talk – Creating a Reading List

    Sunday Box Talk – Creating a Reading List

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    What do you want to study?  Maybe you just want to read the Great Books, or the history of Ireland, or about the conflict going on in the Middle East.  Other than asking the internet and getting some pithy sound bytes, but no real information, how do you go about learning about these subjects?

    Creating a bibliography is a skill.  Knowing what to include, and what not to include, takes practice.  Doing so can teach you a lot about a subject even before you\’ve read all the books available to you.

    How to Create a Reading List

    1. Start with what\’s available.  Go to the internet and look up the syllabi for courses that cover the subject you\’re studying.  Use them as a starting point, because the professor includes the books that they think are the best ones for the subject.
    2. Ask your reference librarian to help you put together a good list.  They\’ll love you for it – it\’s way more interesting than telling people how to get to the bathroom.  Trust me.
    3. When you find a good book, see what they include in their list of references.  Go check those out and see what you think.
    4. Write notes on what you\’re reading.  Talk to yourself.  The best way to learn from books is to engage with them.  Respect your own opinions.
    5. Talk to others who are interested in the same subject.  See what books and resources they like.

    What about you, Dear Reader?  What subjects make you curious?

  • Sunday Box Talk – Be a Lifelong Student

    Sunday Box Talk – Be a Lifelong Student

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    So let\’s say you\’ve decided to become a student again.  You want to learn new things, develop new skills, maybe have some fun.  Now what?

    Well, first thing is to learn to be a novice again.  Let yourself be bad at something, in order to get better.  Studying is a challenge, too.  Spend time with the material.  Take notes.  Let yourself have the luxury of working at it.

    Once you have all that down, what next?  Where do you find classes for adults?

    Some Ways To Be a (Good) Student

    • VTC – Virtual Training Company (software training)
      • Have you wanted to learn to develop websites?  Make better photographs?  Do video production?  Check out their course offerings.  They have affordable monthly payment options or you\’d save by signing up for a full year.  Those of you looking for a job in I.T., they have training for certification programs like A+.
    • Craftsy
      • Wanna knit?  Weave? Sew? Cook?  The list goes on.  They have a number of free classes, so you can get an idea of how the platform works.  Watch out; this maybe prove to be as addictive as Netflix.
    • Meetup
      • Prefer meeting with people in person?  There are meetups for almost every interest, from writing to science, gaming to coffee, travel to local exploration.  Attendance at many meetups are free.
    • Museums
      • Pro-tip: search Google for \”museums\” and see what pops up near you.  Many museums offer free days for locals, or you can get a pass at your local library.  Try asking your local librarian for suggestions.  You never know what you might find.
    • Community or City College
      • In California, they\’re called community college.  Here in Chicago, it\’s City Colleges of Chicago.  Whatever you call them, these institutions bridge the gap from high school to a four year university.  They also have courses that train students for disciplines like nursing or supply chain management.  You can also learn stuff you didn\’t learn in high school or university.  Miss an opportunity to study calculus?  Want to try literature?  Learn a new language?
    • Park Districts and Adult Centers
      • Check out your local park center and adult community centers.  You can learn all sorts of things from woodworking to jewelry.  These classes tend to be very reasonably priced, too.

    What about you, Dear Reader?  What are your favorite educational tips?

  • Sunday Box Talk – How To Take a Sabbatical

    Sunday Box Talk – How To Take a Sabbatical

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    I\’ve taken sabbaticals a couple times in my life.  While it\’s scary to buck the accepted norm, doing so can teach you a lot about yourself and why you\’re on this planet.

    The first time, I was twenty-five.  I decided to make a solo climb on Mount Lassen, in Northern California.  I got nearly to the peak and sat down to take a break.  Looking south over the Sierra Nevada Mountains, I realized something:  if I followed what my parents wanted me to do, I\’d end up where they were – and I didn\’t want that.  I didn\’t want a predictable, safe, corporate life.

    I wanted to be a writer.

    I\’ve wanted to be a writer since I was very young.  Unfortunately, writing isn\’t one of those career choices that overjoy parents, particularly when their priority is to have the kind of offspring that they can brag about.  My mother died ashamed of my career choices, convinced that the life choices I made were going to send me down the path to failure.  Fortunately for me, by the time she told me that, I knew in my bones that being a writer was the right choice for me.

    But to get there, I had to walk through fire.  At twenty-five, I ran my own department at a large corporation in Silicon Valley.  When I gave notice to quit, the Vice President – General Manager of one of the three main business units called me into his office.  He offered me the assignment I\’d busted my ass to earn:  Market Research Analyst in a team that had offices worldwide – including Russia, which directly related to my bachelors\’ degree in Russian.

    I turned him down.

    Instead, I moved north to the town of Mount Shasta.  We lived on fifty acres of forested land, seven miles out of the tiny town named after the mountain.  I worked in a local bookstore for a dragon of a boss, one of the first abusive bosses I had.  The torture was worth it:  I spent all my time writing or hiking.  In the year that I was there, I produced over fifteen hundred pages and learned a very important lesson:

    Publishers don\’t knock your door down with contracts to publish your book.

    I realized that my next step was to get a good day job that would support my writing passion.  I moved to Las Vegas for two years, which was an awful idea.  Las Vegas is not the town for me.  I found Chicago.  I\’ve been here ever since.  After working in the finance industry for almost ten years, I realized that I wanted to downshift, and took another sabbatical.

    And now, I realized I have some ideas on how to make sabbaticals work.  I figured I\’d share with you.

    Five tips for a successful sabbatical.

    1. Be brave.  Be willing to face the possibility of failure.
    2. Lower your financial expectations.  You\’ll be surprised what you can live without if you try.
    3. Learn to save.  Even if you can\’t take a year off today, you can start saving money so you can do that when you want to.
    4. Shorten your timeframe.  I know a year-long sabbatical sounds romantic, but sometimes we just can\’t swing it due to financial realities and family commitments.  If that\’s the case, try swinging a weekend or two weeks\’ vacation.  Get a hotel or even a youth hostel and work on your writing.
    5. Decide what your priorities are.  Do you want to be successful at your corporate job, working for someone else\’s dream?  Or do you want to be a writer and follow your own pied piper?
  • Sunday Box Talk – The Purpose of Education

    Sunday Box Talk – The Purpose of Education

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    What’s the purpose of education? Nowadays, increasingly, it’s to get a job. It’s more about technical training than it is about educating the mind. And yet, with the proliferation of smartphones, always-on internet connectivity, and ever expanding inflow of information sources, we need the benefits that a good education bring more than ever before.

    In classical terms, to be educated meant that one knew how to think. The discipline of thinking wasn’t just something one did; it required work, application, and skill. We’ve forgotten this skill, and that’s a bad thing. It used to be that an educated person would read certain pieces, in common with other educated people, and then engage in discussion about the ideas on those pieces. While the “canon” has been attacked as being male, white, and patriarchal, the ideas contained in it are as valuable now as they were fifty or a hundred years ago. There’s nothing wrong with studying the classical canon, and then adding to it all the rich heritage of minority and women’s voices.

    One thing lacking in today’s environment is the ability to hold a competing idea in one’s head long enough to understand the other person’s point of view. We’ve lost the art of discourse. It used to be that one could listen to another person’s thoughts, digest them, and then either disagree or agree once one was certain one understood them. In fact, Mortimer J. Adler argues that one cannot truly agree nor disagree until and unless one has fully comprehended what the other has had to say.

    Something else I’ve noticed is that we don’t have gatekeepers for incoming information anymore. It comes at us with the velocity of a fire hose, all the time. If we’re away from our computer, it comes to our smartphone. If it doesn’t come there, it’s on the television at the gas pump, (how offensive is that?). When my grandfather was alive, you would get a large newspaper on Sundays and the day was spent relaxing and reading – long – articles.  Now, news is delivered in soundbytes, and the average length of articles is 300 to 500 words – a blip when compared to articles from even just fifteen years ago.

    So What Do We Do To Educate Ourselves?

    There are many tools available to us.  Some of them are modern, and related to the internet.  Some of them are old-school, and related to how we control incoming information.

    1. Read.  A lot.  Whether it\’s ebooks, traditional books, or Bartleby.
    2. Turn off the inflow.  Try it for one day a week – don\’t go on the internet, social media, or your smartphone.  See what the real world has to offer you.
    3. Write.  Journal and get in touch with your own thoughts.
    4. Read about other smart people.  A couple awesome biographies are by Benjamin Franklin and Montaigne\’s essays.
    5. Throw a party and talk about smart stuff.  Why not revive the Victorian tradition of the salon?  Have cocktails, snacks, and talk about the great ideas.

    What about you, Dear Reader?  What do you want to learn?

  • Sunday Box Talk – Getting Back To Basics

    Sunday Box Talk – Getting Back To Basics

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    Getting back to basics – what are the three boxes of life? It’s an idea from Richard Nelson Bolles, author of What Color Is Your Parachute. He points out that the three big boxes most of us deal with are education, work, and retirement. Bolles proposes something that’s nothing short of revolutionary – why keep the boxes in the traditional order of school when we’re young, then work for most of our adult life, then retire in our “golden years?” Why not mix it up a little?

    I’ve talked about the idea of changing things up and the objections I hear amount to one thing: fear of challenging the status quo. What does following the status quo give us? Don’t reject it out of hand: predictability, stability, and familiarity. Those things aren’t trifles, and they’re not to be sneezed at. In times of great stress, usually it’s one or more of those three things that are impacted that causes all the stress. Why would we want to bring that about ourselves?

    Here’s why: when we do things out of order, such as work as youth, or go back to school in later years, or take a year or six months off as a sabbatical, it teaches us things about ourselves that we would learn in no other way. By challenging the patterns that have become routine, it engages parts of our brain that aren’t usually in use as we go through life on auto-pilot. While it can be scary, it can be exhilarating and allow us to see things in new ways.

    We also have a myth that we’re supposed to be good at something before we even start it. I can’t tell you how many people argue with me when I suggest they go back to school to study something that interests them. “Oh, I’m no good at such-and-such.” Being good at something is what you aim to be after education, not before.

    If we open our minds to the possibility of changing around the order of things, what might happen? We might go back to school after forty, or fifty, or seventy. We might take a sabbatical and go live somewhere rural to study sustainable farming. We might take a gap year before going to college, to give ourselves time to cool off after high school and get some needed life skills.

    What about you, Dear Reader? What might you try if you shook up your status quo?