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  • A Poem for Saturday

    Have you ever experienced a moment when reading a piece, where it feels that the author somehow wrote it directly for you without even being aware of it? Some call that Kizmat, others synchronicity. Me, I find it startling. Creepy, even. Particularly if it feels like the author has a webcam into my life and writes things that will work for whatever moment I\’m feeling the moment I\’m reading their words. Julia Cameron does that, a lot.

    Poet Sarah Fuhro did it this week. I want to share with you her lovely poem. Enjoy.

    It\’s Almost Time

    It\’s almost time,
    almost time for the change in light
    but almost time for the poor and weak to reach out
    their trembling hands to each other and to grasp.

    It\’s almost time for the kind to smile
    and be seen
    in all their glory,
    for the shift in power.

    It\’s almost time for the silenced to sing
    and for the earth to receive the sweet rain
    of justice as it falls on ploughed fields.

    It\’s almost time to be brave
    and to go the next step without knowing how.

    It\’s almost time for the knowledge of the Moon
    to rise in the dark sky and let us know
    there is more than one way
    to see the road ahead.

  • Staying the Course

    Today being Sunday has got me in a pensive mood. I think, as writers, we tend to think a lot about method: what is our method, what is the method of writers we admire or want to emulate, and what should our method be in order to be better – better authors, better sellers, better writers, better people.

    At the end of the day, though, none of that matters. If the story we have to tell gets told, then we\’ve done well. Getting to the page, or to the keyboard, is the important victory. We may cry and gnash our teeth on the way there, but if we get there, then we\’ve won.

    Writing can be a release from stress and it can be a stressor. It is, always, the truth of itself: it is nothing less than what we see, day in and day out, moment by moment. We may write what we see in literal terms, or we may write what we see on the screen of our minds. If we\’re lucky, others will find solace in what stories we tell. But tell them, we must: our job description is \”storyteller,\” after all.

    Someone remarked to me recently that they weren\’t certain that all stories deserve to be told. I disagree. I think there is room in the Great Conversation for the inane and the mundane. I think it is true that not all stories deserve an audience, nor should all stories want one. Sometimes the painful truth is that we may, ourselves, believe that our story should have one, but the reality is there isn\’t one. Does that mean we shouldn\’t write it? That we should muzzle ourselves in favor of the peace of the world? Not bother the silence with our noise?

    No. If we have a story, and we each of us do, then we should tell it. We should struggle with the pen or the keyboard and wrestle that minotaur. Worrying about where to send it when we\’re done is not the job of the storyteller. That is a job for later, when we put on the hat of author and learn the business of publishing. But many good stories are told, every day, by people to whom publishing is anathema. And many other stories aren\’t told that should be, that fester in silence because the writer forgot the one and most important rule:

    If you See it, Write it.

    Story is God.

  • Polyamory

    Fellow Beyond the Veil author Xakara wrote an excellent essay on Polyamory this week that I thought folks would find interesting. Please stop by and take a read, and be sure to comment. Xakara loves to interact with her readers. Visit her post, here.

  • Characters I Love

    I have great news! I am humbled and pleased and excited, all at the same time. I have been accepted into the Beyond the Veil community of authors. These are some amazingly talented paranormal and science fiction/fantasy authors. It\’s an honor to be included.

    Today is my inaugural post, and the theme for August is Characters You Love ~ Or Love to Hate. Here\’s my take on it.

  • Thursday 13: The \”I\’m Not In A Mood Anymore\” Post

    As a follow-on to last weeks vent of spleen, this week I want to focus on 13 Things I\’m Grateful For. And, for those of you who are curious if domestic mayhem was committed at the Noonypad last week, all is well. THINGS were discussed, and are on their way to being resolved.

    See what a good rant can help with?

    🙂

    1. I\’m grateful for my OCD creative husband. In the last 3 weeks, he\’s sewn over 14 garments, finished building 4 pieces of furniture, and started his Victorian boudoir photography series. He\’s got 3 photo shoots this Saturday with professional models! I\’m so excited and proud to be married to him.

    2. I\’m grateful my kid is healthy, happy and safe. And drug free. And hasn\’t made me a grandmother.

    3. I\’m grateful for my neurotic dog. I mean, what, you\’d expect me to have a normal dog like everyone else? Coyote keeps me sane by comparison.

    4. I\’m grateful that Belii, who has feline kidney disease, is doing well on his new diet.

    5. I\’m grateful to Jean Marie Ward for her advice on how to accomplish #4 for the long term. Jean Marie, thanks. Truly.

    6. I\’m grateful The Kitten Monster of Doom is healthy and that I haven\’t killed her and made a Daniel Boone hat out of her hide, complete with a calico tail.

    It\’d be a really cool hat.

    7. I\’m grateful Boria is playing with Nadya (the kitten of #6) and not sulking all over the house anymore. Besides, it\’s cute, and he\’s lost weight. And she wins, a large portion of the time, which is worth seeing.

    8. I\’m grateful to my chiropractor for figuring out what\’s wrong with my back and fixing it. It\’ll be a long haul, but I\’m already seeing results. He rocks.

    9. I\’m grateful to be doing a TT on gratitude. It\’s easy to forget how much better one feels when one writes a list of things for which they are grateful. Saying thank you is an underrated spiritual path.

    10. I\’m grateful I know how to type. (No, I\’m actually serious. Watching my friends who hunt and peck is painful. I am glad I took the time to learn it.)

    11. I\’m grateful I have friends who can\’t type. And friends who can. Y\’all, I love you!

    12. I\’m grateful my car has air conditioning.

    13. And the number one thing I\’m grateful for this week? MY NEW AIR CONDITIONER ARRIVES TOMORROW! I THINK I\’LL KISS THE UPS MAN. WOMAN. NON-SEXIST TERM OF ENDEARMENT FOR THE LOVELY INDIVIDUAL WHO BRINGS ME SALVATION FROM THIS SWELTERING, STICKY MESS THAT IS THE NOONYPAD.

    Happy TT!

  • Thursday 13: The \”I\’m In A Mood\” Post

    13 Random Things. And if you have to ask, don\’t.

    1. When you “do the dishes,” they’re not done until they’re put away.

    2. “Doing the dishes” means all the dirty dishes get washed. Not just the ones in the sink. Or on the drain board. Or on the stove.

    3. When you are doing nothing but going to school, you damn well better be getting A’s and B’s – ESPECIALLY if I had to work full time, get an MBA (and a straight-A average) AND wrote a novel in 20 months. NO SYMPATHY.

    4. When you walk out of the house in 90+ degree weather with 80%+ humidity, SHUT THE FUCKING DOOR.

    5. Don’t sound surprised that I have air conditioning living in Chicago. I’m not 12 anymore, and I’m not homeless.

    6. Stop making fun of me, ridiculing me, or even fucking commenting that I make lists. I like lists. They keep me organized. Deal with it.

    7. Your disorganization and failure to plan do not constitute a problem on my part. Especially if I ask you, several times, ahead of time, to do things that would avoid said problem.

    8. You don’t get to call me “anal” if you do #7.

    9. Don’t stand there, in 90+ degree weather with 80%+ humidity, with the refrigerator door wide open, trying to figure out what’s in there that you can eat. It hasn’t changed since the LAST time you were in there, you helped me shop, AND I TOLD you what I bought. Use your memory.

    10. Failure to use your memory is not solved by “I’m sorry.” It’s solved by FUCKING USING YOUR MEMORY!

    11. Because I’m better organized than you does not mean I should do all the organizing.

    12. Because I’m better organized than you does not mean I should be the one taking all the notes.

    13. Don’t fuck with me before coffee or you’ll get an entire Thursday 13 post dedicated to you in absentia.

    Any questions?

  • I\’m Guest Blogging at Delilah Devlin\’s Blog!

    Pardon me, but fangrrl moment. Delilah Devlin impresses the socks outta me. Srsly.

    And I nearly fainted when she kindly extended a guest blogger slot to Rachel and I: WHEN BETA RELATIONSHIPS BECOME SERIOUS; or “How To Use a Catcher’s Mitt”. I\’d love it if you stopped by and checked it out, and be sure to thank Delilah for visiting. Check out her books and all the work she\’s doing (she\’s got two anthology calls open right now, too!).

    Thanks, Delilah!

  • Wiley Wednesday: In Defense of the Pen

    My essay \”In Defense of the Pen\” is up today on the Writer\’s Retreat Blog. Come on by!

    If you aren\’t familiar with it, the Wiley Wednesday articles are a series of essays related to the craft and business of writing. Written once a week by the authors of the Writer\’s Retreat blog, you can find material on all aspects of writing.

  • New Pandora Station

    I built a Pandora profile that now links to my Facebook, so it\’s got my branding consistently throughout (thank you, Pandora, for building in that functionality!). So I am now up on Pandora so you can participate with the stations I create for my characters and for world-building, and share your stations with me. Cue the music!

  • Thursday 13: A Writer In Her Library

    Today we continue with craft books. The fun thing about craft books is that they can serve as inspiration for art that one wants to create. I get ideas and inspiration when I read them and see pictures of things. It’s one of the reasons I love knitting and crochet magazines, because the full-color glossy pictures are fun to look at and imagine myself making the outfits. Even if I don’t make the specific item in the picture, the design ideas influence my own creations.

    1. Epstein, Nicky: Crocheted Flowers; Sixth & Spring Books, New York, 2007
    This is the publisher that handles a lot of the current Vogue books. They do a lot of Ms. Epstein’s as well. I love this book. She’s an amazing designer with a seemingly endless fount of ideas, and her instructions are easy enough that I, as a novice crocheter, can follow them. I’m sure that anyone without my 2D/3D hangups would find them super simple to follow along. I even made an enormous blue crocheted rose, as practice, that turned into a gift for a friend out of town. Fun stuff.

    2. Knight, Erika: The Harmony Guides: Basic Crochet Stitches ; Sixth & Spring Books, New York, 2008
    This is the second of my crochet reference books that I have in my main, working collection. This is an awesome book. I’ve heard excellent things about the Harmony Guides series; if they’re anything like this one then they’re well worth the investment. I had taken one crochet class and was able to follow the instructions in here; again, someone without my 2D/3D issues would find it very clear and easy to follow. Highly recommended.

    3. Jacobs, Kate: The Friday Night Knitting Club; Berkley Books, New York, 2007
    Here we switch gears entirely to fiction with knitting in it. (I’d say “knitlit” but someone thought of it first and came up with a series; see below.) (Wish I thought of it first, though!)
    This was a gift from my sister-in-law and follows the lives of the people in the Friday Night Knitting Club. It’s a cool idea for a story!

    4. Murphy, Bernadette: Zen and the Art of Knitting: Exploring the Links Between Knitting, Spirituality, and Creativity; Adams Media, Avon, MA 2002
    If I were to write a memoir about my thoughts on knitting and spirituality, this would be the title I’d want to give it. I love it. Ms. Murphy wrote a deeply thoughtful, fun and accurate book about how knitting can connect us with the deeper vibration. Brava!

    5. Roghaar, Linda & Molly Wolf: Knit Lit and Knit Lit Too; Three Rivers Press; New York, 2002
    These two are awesome. Find out why you should “Never Knit Dog” and how one woman’s abduction in a war-torn country was turned into something much less sinister with the power of knitting. Highly, highly recommended. They also have KnitLit the Third: We Spin More Yarns – MAN, I wish I thought of these titles! ~grin~ I haven’t read the third one, but that’s a function of time rather than inclination. ~eyes TBR pile~

    Moving on then…

    6. Better Homes and Gardens, Knitting Year-Round; Better Homes and Gardens Books, Des Moines, 2003
    I really love this book because it lays out a plan for knitting the entire year, including how to finish season-specific items in time for use during that season, but also so you’re not knitting a really heavy woolen sweater in the middle of July’s heat. Lots of fun.

    7. Bush, Nancy: Knitting on the Road, Interweave Press, Loveland, CO, 2001
    This is one of the first design books I bought, and I really love it. She’s got a lot of great thoughts about knitting while traveling, and all sorts of thoughts about portability. Lots of fun.

    8. Carles, Julie and Jordana Jacobs: The Yarn Girls\’ Guide to Beyond the Basics; Potter Craft, New York, 2005
    I got this book when I was part of Crafter’s Choice. It’s not bad, but it’s not something I’d say run out and buy immediately either. The authors are spunky and fun, and it’s a good idea generator.

    9. Epstein, Nicky: Knitting On Top of the World: The Global Guide to Traditions, Techniques and Design; Nicky Epstein Books; New York, 2008
    This is a gorgeous book. It’s essentially a coffee table book, due to size and glossiness, but Epstein as always delivers an expert product. She’s an incredible designer and I recommend checking this out – even if you only do so at the library, the pictures alone will make you swoon. Her thoughts and instruction on design interpretations around the world are worth the read.

    10. Falick, Melanie; Handknit Holidays; Stewart Tabori and Chang, New York, 2005
    I love this book, and the next one I have by her: Weekend Knitting; Stewart Tabori and Chang, New York, 2003. Falick edted for Interweave and her experience shows. These are professional, well-designed, and very informative – not to mention, fun. Highly recommend both of these.

    11. Family Circle; Easy Sweaters; Sixth & Spring Books, New York, 2001 and Easy Afghans, 2003.
    I like both of these as good, solid, simple compendiums of easy projects to make. They’re a good way to learn how to do structures and such, and I’ve made several of the afghans multiple times as gifts.

    12. Griffiths, Melody: Knitting in No Time; Reader\’s Digest Association Inc., New York, 2006
    A surprising and fun book. Mulitple quick-to-knit projects of all kinds, this is a great place to go when you need gift ideas or stash-busters.

    13. Harding, Louisa: Knitting Little Luxuries: Beautiful Accessories to Knit; Interweave Press; Loveland, CO, 2007
    I love Louisa Harding. She’s another of my favorite designers. This book is beautiful – full of lovely photographs of elegant knits from shawls to sweaters to unusual items. I like this collection because it gives you ideas for things to make with one or two skeins of luxury yarns, so that the project matches the quality of the fiber. Lots of fun.

    I hope you enjoyed this week’s glimpse into my library, and that maybe I’ll inspire you to start checking out the wealth of information in craft books. Even better, maybe you’ll pick up a craft or two. Happy TT!

  • Thursday 13: A Writer In Her Library

    Welcome to another segment of my ongoing series, “A Writer In Her Library.” Today, I’d like to pull the focus a bit and talk about categorizations.

    When one goes to a library, the books are organized according to some particular method. The most common are the Dewey Decimal System, as seen in many high school libraries and some public ones; and the Library of Congress System, as seen in, well, the Library of Congress, as well as many universities and some public libraries (for example, the Chicago Public Library System).

    Both of these systems are useful, and a good way for Librarians to manage information. When I set up my library, though, I wanted something simpler and that fit the way I use my books. This leads me to an important observation about managing information that I’ve learned over twenty-five years managing offices and the information in them.

    The critical part of any information management system, be it books, paper files, or online content, is getting the information back out of the system when it’s needed. Fifteen years ago, before Google was even a common term, (Google was founded in 1998), the internet was described as a global library where all the books were piled in the middle with no rhyme or reason. That’s one of the reasons Google has been so successful. Its search algorithms allow users to get more and more precise search results for information they need. There are other methods of doing so, Yahoo! being one of the most markedly different, but my purpose here is more to discuss the philosophy of organization rather than its specifics. I use Google as an example, though, because its key success factor is its ability to return the information that the user needs, when the user needs it.

    That, fundamentally, is the purpose of any organizational system. Some of them require more training on the part of the user in order to use them (Dartmouth’s university library catalog in 1993 is one of the most complicated I have seen), but the fundamental purpose behind them is the same: organize data in such a way that it can be retrieved, as needed, in accordance with the need of the user. (So when you look up flowers, you don’t get baking flour, for example.)

    What I’ve learned handling this process for various offices and people that I’ve worked with is that this last point is the most challenging. It doesn’t matter how well I understand file management. It matters how the people USING the files recall the data, because that is how they’ll look it up. Some people recall colors better. Some recall people and authors better. Some, like me, recall by date and subject.

    In setting up my own library, something I haven’t taken the time to do until recently, I have complete authority over the subjects I pick. This is a rare pleasure. Usually, I’m working with a team and I need to set up the system according to how the team thinks rather than my personal preference. But now, with my books, I get to be boss and peon.

    I was surprised to find out, then, that my cookbook collection had a lot more subject divisions than when I started to pull all of the books together. It was fascinating to start separating them into their relevant subjects and I found that I had more than I thought. I’m one short of 13, so it’s not a proper Thursday 13, but I share my subject headlines both from a sense of personal pride and fun in that I get to determine the subjects, but also in the rare chance that one or more of my readers might see something in my subject divisions that might inspire them with their own libraries.

    1. Comprehensive Cookbooks

    These are the traditional “cookbooks” that one thinks of when one thinks of the generic term: Betty Crocker, Better Homes and Gardens, etc. General, all-purpose, and comprehensive; the cookbooks in this category fill most of the needs of the home cook from main dishes to beverages and such.

    One interesting thing I noticed is the books in this category tend to be organized in one of two ways: by meal or by ingredients. Some cover topics like Breakfast, Lunch or Light Fare, Dinner, Entertaining, Beverages, and Desserts; the second group covers topics like Meat, Fowl, Fish, Soups and Stews, Vegetables, Beverages, Cakes, Pies, Candies, Ice Creams and Frozen Custard, etc.

    2. Cooking for Two/Working Adult Cookbooks

    If you had asked me before I started collecting cookbooks when I thought the “cooking for two” idea came about, I would have said it was my own generation (Generation X) when we were in high school in the 80’s. The so-called nuclear family of Reagan and then the growing propensity of people to marry late and have children late would have engendered a need for such books.

    Boy, was I wrong. My earliest book of the type is 1963. Granted, it’s not strictly for two people, but it’s called THE WORKING WIVES\’ (SALARIED OR OTHERWISE) COOKBOOK by Theodora Zavin and Freda Stuart. They discuss smaller portions and also the ideas of making items ahead and all sorts of time-saving ideas. I have also seen titles from the 1920’s on the same subjects, so my generation is hardly the first to realize that the primary cook of a household may, in fact, work for pay outside that household but still need to feed its members adequately.

    3. Canning and Storage

    It will come as no surprise to my long-time readers that I was probably born in the wrong century and would privately love to be a frontierswoman. In fact, I used to play in the Society for Creative Anachronism, otherwise known as the SCA, who at times describes itself as an organization for re-creating the medieval times but with plumbing and without the Plague.

    I like the idea of canning and storage. While I haven’t had the time to devote to it or a large enough garden to make it cost-effective, my plan is to remedy that when we buy either our first or second home. In the meantime, I’m an armchair frontierswoman. I love reading about malic acid and fruit pectin, and know that apples can be used as a good natural thickener. Until I can really go to town putting up the fruit crop from my peach orchard, I’ll fantasize in my books.

    Besides. My neighbor has a lovely mulberry tree and if I go late at night, maybe they won’t notice my ladder and bucket. Pardon me, I’ll be right back…

    4. Family Cookbooks

    It turns out I have several cookbooks compiled by family and for family. I find these at garage sales, through my family, and as fund-raisers. They’re an interesting window on how other people cook, as well as their favorite recipes.

    5. Cook’s Illustrated

    This is both a magazine and they do a hard-back annual compendium. I have one of the annuals, as well as a couple years’ worth of subscriptions. Of all the cookbook magazines, I like this one the best because they review multiple cooking methods for the same type of food, as well as multiple iterations of the same kind of dish (like, say, oatmeal).

    6. Specific Technique and Equipment

    This is fairly self-explanatory. It’s a category for the cookbook that came with our microwave or the blender, etc. I have a title called ELECTRIC BREAD, for example, that has recipes for using a breadmaker. Anything of that type goes in this section.

    7. Meal-Specific Books

    Again, pretty self-explanatory. It’s not the compendium as mentioned in section one, but it’s a book all about a specific meal – I have one entitled BRUNCH, for example.

    8. Weight Watchers

    It startled me how many Weight Watchers cookbooks I actually own. (They’re really good about making their cookbooks sexy, full-color, and food-porn, though I’m sure their marketing department wouldn’t describe them in those terms.) (But if I didn’t like food porn and sexy full-color exposes on my food, I wouldn’t NEED Weight Watchers, now would I?)

    (Get your mind out of the gutter. I don’t mean porn with food, I mean food porn. As in, a sexy spread about Zanzibar Chocolate Ice Cream that won’t add twenty pounds to your ass just by reading the recipe.)

    9. Vegetarian

    Um, this about, like, Vegetarian cooking.

    Duh.

    10. Health and Instructional Books about Food and Eating

    Hmm. My topics are getting more and more self-explanatory.

    Do I need to discuss what Health and instructional Books About Food and Eating are?

    In all seriousness, I include topics like the Specific Carbohydrate Diet for treatment of intestinal disorders and other such topics in this area.

    11. Culture-Specific Cookbooks

    Russian, Jewish, Mexican, Asian, etc. all fit in here. I have, for example, an excellent review of all types of Russian cooking by Anne Volokh, the first post-Soviet food reporter in Russia. (Prior to Glasnost, they didn’t have such an occupation; at least not openly.) I lump other cuisine-specific books in this category because that’s where I expect to find them when I go looking for ideas.

    12. Ingredient-Specific

    As in, 101 Different Ways to Prepare Chicken, and such. I have a book on Mustard, one on Garlic, and actually two on Mushrooms (since my husband LOVES them).

    I don’t have a 13th Category, so I ask you, the Reader: tell me, in Comments, what you might add to my list or how you organize your own cookbooks.

    As I’m typing this, my buddy who is sitting here reading while I type, said, I have one. So, here is Dorothy’s additional category:

    “Making Ingredients” as in, How to Make Cheese, How to Make Flavored Vinegars, How to Make Butter, How to Distill Oregano, etc.

    Oooh. Those sound fun. Hmm. Maybe I need to go cookbook shopping here soon.

    Book addiction? Me?

    Silly. There’s no such thing. ~nods~

    Happy TT!