Statement on the Events of 11/5/24
I wrote this for my weekly craft salon, and wanted to share it here as well.
Statement on the Events of 11/5/24
I know we’ve seen the news by now, and that the results are not what we wanted. I wanted to say a few words and provide, if I can, some measure of solace for the times that are ahead of us.
Plenty of words will be written and spoken in the coming days about what happened, why it occurred, and what to do about it. But my focus is, and must be, closer to home. What is relevant for our purposes is this: the foundation of our personal wellness comes down to at least three things: mindfulness, community, and creativity. It is by exercising those three things, which are entirely in our control, that we garner the strength to heal, the resilience to act, and the strength to respond to adverse circumstances.
Mindfulness:
Mindfulness doesn’t only mean meditation, and meditation doesn’t only mean stillness. As trauma specialist Molly Birkholm points out, there are three key questions we can ask ourselves whenever we need to come back to our home ground:
1. What is present?
2. Where am I feeling it in my body?
3. Is this information asking me to take some action in the world?
If you, like me, are experiencing a flood of emotions and anxiety, that first question is where our focus will have the most impact. As we learn to sit with our discomfort, to hold the hurt parts, the anxiety, the fear, and the rage, we come into coherence: coherence with our emotions, with our bodies, and with our minds. It is in coherence that we can act from our best and most enlightened selves. This is not comfortable work. It is not easy work. It IS work. It is THE work.
Stay with the emotions as you can, and remember that they tend to come in 90 second waves, like labor pains. Breathe. Practice good self care. Eat well, sleep well, hydrate. If we fall off the wagon and binge on junk food or drugs and alcohol, give ourselves grace to realize that’s a trauma response. We are trying to self-medicate. Get back on the wagon. Follow your program. I’ve got some resources below if you need them.
Community:
A Good Yarn: Makerspace and Crafting Salon is not going anywhere. We will continue our “politics-free zone,” and for the same reason that I put that in place when we started this. It’s not to white-wash what’s happening. It’s not to make nice. It’s not because there are good people on both sides. It’s because, plain and simple, we need a fucking break. We need a break from the vitriol, the division, and the very real fear for ourselves, our families, our community, and our world. Do not think for a moment that I am blind to any of these things. It is precisely because I see them and feel them so keenly that I need to stake out a place where I say, this place, this sacred space, this liminal space is a space out of space and a time out of time and is inviolate to the forces of confusion that seek to destroy it. It is, quite simply, a radical act.
Remember our communities. We are not alone, and there is nothing we cannot accomplish when we work together. I know that it might not feel like that right now, and that you, like me, are feeling bruised. That’s why these steps are chronological. Go back to the beginning. Go back to the breath. What is present. Where are you feeling it. Is the information asking you to take some action in the world.:
Act. Join your local Indivisible chapter. Cure ballots. (Ask me privately what that is if you haven’t heard of it.) Join Red, Wine, and Blue. Follow Heather Cox Richardson and Dan Rather. Talk to flesh and blood humans and stay the fuck off social media when you want to connect, and really connect with other humans. Come to craft circle. You don’t even have to say a word, just sit there and soak up the energy. Remember: Winnie the Pooh and friends didn’t kick Piglet out when he was feeling down. They sat with him.
Creativity:
I’ve said this many times before: all writing is a radical act. I would expand that to all acts of creativity are radical acts. Our power is in our hands and our voices, and in our ability to play. Audre Lorde said it best: “Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation and that is an act of political warfare.”
Child-like pursuits are also radical acts. It takes balls to color as an adult. It takes balls to stand up and say, I like to knit. It takes balls to make something, to have the temerity to declare ourselves “artist” in a world that is fueled by monetization.
Do it anyway.
Stay strong. Keep the faith. Write.
Resources:
Mindfulness:
EMDR International: https://www.
US-based: Find a therapist: https://www.psychologytoday.
Calm app: https://calm.com/
Yoga Nidra:
Molly Birkholm has a number of resources. There are quite a few, but the ones I like are a series she did during the pandemic:
- Week 1: Cultivating Safety: https://www.youtube.
com/watch?v=mbBeYppEC8Q& feature=youtu.be - Week 2: Connection: https://www.
youtube.com/watch?v= GuaNSRdiaQM&feature=youtu.be - Week 3: Sleep: https://www.youtube.
com/watch?v=NATx0PAff14& feature=youtu.be - Week 4: Love: https://www.youtube.com/
watch?v=DM7fc90jKG0 - Week 5: Calming Stress and Anxiety: https://www.youtube.
com/watch?v=mXN4I2JTyMc - Week 6: Investing in Yourself: https://www.youtube.
com/watch?v=zg6emSjPAy0& feature=youtu.be - Week 7: Balancing the Five Elements: https://www.youtube.
com/watch?v=c-dI-u3oHO8& feature=youtu.be - Week 8: Embodied Consciousness: https://www.
youtube.com/watch?v= UVqIuz5f8dE&feature=youtu.be
Community:
Saturday studio time: Saturdays, noon to 2 Pacific on Zoom (leave me a comment to discuss if you’re not already on the list)
Indivisible: https://
Red, Wine, and Blue: https://redwine.blue/
Heather Cox Richardson: https://
Dan Rather: https://steady.
Creativity:
The Artist’s Way, by Julia Cameron
Seattle Writers Group on Discord (leave a comment and we can discuss privately if you would like to join; open joins are paused for the moment for the safety of the community)
Monday Write-ins with Writer Zen Garden (leave a comment and we can discuss privately)
I will have more info and thoughts in the coming days, but like you, I’m reeling from the news. Be gentle with each other. And above all, remember you are loved.
Thank you for the reminders of how to navigate trauma response. My toolbox of coping skills feels so strangely heavy right now… Especially considering how little it’s actually carrying.
Thank you for all of the resources and ideas and the logical progression through it all because I, like you perhaps, still feel in shock.
Thank you for for being one to reach out and help. ❤️
Most Sincerely,
Rebecca Potylycki
You are very welcome. And yes. I have ricocheted between grief, rage, fear, and shock all day. ~hugs~
Also, thank you for taking the time to reach out and leave a comment. We will need our Community more than ever in the coming weeks and months. Together, we are strong.
Beautifully said…thank you for emailing me a link to this. All of the things Molly Birkholm and you are addressing are crucial, especially now. Julia Cameron and Morning Pages is helping me with my sanity, giving me a place to rant, rage, and cry. (wry grin)