So. … This is my list. It has no introduction, on account of I can’t think of one. Suffice it to say, if you’re a manager, and you want to motivate your team members or build trust, don’t do these things:

1. Yell a lot.

2. Don’t apologize.

3. Yell some more.

4. Look confused when confronted about your mood and why you’ve been yelling.

5. Tell the person that confronted you about your mood and why you’ve been yelling that they obviously don’t know what their effect is on others.

6. Yell at your team members about stuff they do outside of work, that has no bearing on work, and when they don’t bring it in to work.

7. Look surprised when they tell you it’s none of your business what they do outside of work. They’re your employees, right??

8. When you do get an inkling you might have gone a teensy bit overboard, apologize and act contrite to everyone EXCEPT the team members you yelled at.

9. Yell some more.

10. Blame your yelling on your own stress and tell people that if they find your yelling stressful, they should consider themselves lucky that’s all the stress they have in their lives.

11. Don’t apologize.

12. Yell about how you’re the boss, because obviously your employees have failed to realize that you are the boss.

13. Pass off 1-12 as “clearing the air.”

There are many good management books out there. Some are even in English. They’re available for free, even, at libraries. Public ones. That are nearby. Even walking distance of some places.

Isn’t society advanced?